幸福在哪里?

 

下班开车回家时,在交通灯前停下,总会看到一个小女生和一个小男生,在路旁难分难舍。

 

我说他们是‘小’男生和女生,因为他们真的很小,我认得出他们的校服,推算出他们的年龄大概是十岁。

 

刚开始,我还以为自己是老花眼。

 

十岁的孩子,在十字街头拥抱、接吻。他们的父母在哪里?

 

我住在英国南方一个典型的中产阶级小镇上。这里的孩子,从不知道什么是真正的贫穷。放学后,他们都忙得很,因为有很多课外活动。如果要约某个孩子到你家里来玩,你可能要提早两个月预约。

 

这里的孩子有的吃、有的喝,去过法国迪斯尼乐园还不算,还要去过弗罗里达州的真正的迪斯尼乐园才算。

 

他们最大的辛酸,是新的电脑游戏还没到手,或者,为什么别人有PS3, 而我却只有PS2

 

我家巷口里有个漂亮的小女生,八、九岁上街时就已经涂抹脂粉,十岁时已经浓妆艳抹,小小年纪看起来像十八岁;她现在十四岁,看起来二十几岁,早已经有了正式的男朋友。

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

为她倾倒的小男孩才十五岁,初中会考都还没考到手。

 

我认识这个小男生的爸爸。我问他,你真的赞成你的儿子这么早就交女朋友吗?

 

他有点无奈地说:‘没办法。不过,我的儿子还算好了,他不抽烟、不喝酒、没吸毒,不像学校里的一些男生那样。’

 

你看,现代父母的要求,只是这样。

 

我们镇上有着一所相当优秀的中学。我曾多次听见骄傲的父母说:‘这个中学里的学生,没有一个来自真正贫困的家庭,学校附近没有政府的贫民社区,所以学校里没有社会底层的贫困孩子。’(‘我们才不屑和下层阶级的人来往。’‘我们家的孩子怎么可以和其他烂孩子混在一起?’)

 

你听,这是多么中产阶级的口吻

 

这也是为什么这所学校那么吸引人的地方。

 

可是,中产的背景,又怎么样?

 

这个小镇也是一个离婚之谷。庄园式的房子里,有多少破裂的家庭。连大人都自顾不暇了,哪还有时间来管孩子?

 

我成天和英国的年轻人接触,看到他们的精神和物质生活,我常想:他们的幸福在哪里? 

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Janet Williams 張玉雲

I am Janet Williams, an academic living in the southeast of England. I blog about culture, history, languages and my community. I created Chandler's Ford Today. During my spare time, I make Origami. Thank you for stopping by.

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